Whenever I see her I feel sick, I can literally feel the blood rush from my head and I feel psychically ill. I don't know if it's guilt for what I put her through, shame, or maybe a little of both. I don't want to discuss this with her, because I want to give her the space she needs, she has already done so much for me.

But in your experience has there been anything you can do to minimise the stress and anxiety one particular person causes you, without discussing it with them directly?