I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your wife, pythocles I agree with HopefullyLost1211 and Quarter life. Remember that you can only do so much to help. She's the one that needs to get help. Just try your best like you're already doing, but don't be so hard on yourself. Stay safe and take care of yourself. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm always available if you need to talk. Sending many hugs to you