It could be that you are overtaxed to the point where you can't deal with other people's problems. I get this way too. I handle it by setting boundaries and sticking to them. I used to be friends with a person who made bad choices and never learned from her mistakes. I set a boundary and I stopped calling her.

I used to work for a boss who sexually harassed me. I eventually quit and I hoped he wouldn't bother me, but he would still occasionally text me to get me to come visit him. I ignored the text messages. I refuse to talk to him.

What you can do is not talk to these people. Stop contacting them, and try to find people who seek more balance in their lives.

My therapist and I are working on creating a sort of list of criteria for making new friends. I'm trying not to reconnect with people who aren't good for me. Would taking a similar approach be beneficial to you?