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Originally Posted by Glowworm80
I didn’t startled him. I don’t think he doesn’t remember me or anything like that it was just strange. I did ask what the look meant and he said ‘nothing I am just thinking’ it was ‘hello....pause (as if thinking for 2-3 seconds)...then my name ... and then went to sit down. It’s not a huge deal just made me wondering if other Ts forget names much. It’s likely he has a momentary block or his mind was elsewhere.
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Why not accept what he said at face value? If I was distracted by my internal thoughts, it might take me a few seconds before I could switch them off and say someone's name. I think it's your interpretation that he "forgot" your name, as opposed to he simply paused before he said it, because his mind was elsewhere before you entered. And even if he "forgot" it, I don't consider a 2 or 3 second "forget" an actual forgetting. Forgetting someone's name is being unable to recall it for some length of time, like saying "hello . . . . ." and then shaking one's head as if to dislodge the memory or snapping your fingers trying to remember.
I think it is common to misinterpret what people say, and it has helped me with T in the past to ask him directly as a way of checking my perceptions. Usually they are wrong. I don't think the point is about being right or wrong, but understanding that interpreting something in the most negative way possible does impact the way you relate to someone. Or how you feel about yourself, which in this case sounds like it fits some internal schema that you are in fact "forgettable," hence you leap to confirm your belief with "evidence."