Any time I have worked with a therapist they have always told me I needed more friends, I needed a larger support system, I needed to be more social... Then get frustrated because I “wouldn’t”... then I was resistant, un-helpable, not willing to try... and usually therapy would start to fall apart right there.
New T told me last Monday that I needed a bigger circle of support. My heart sunk. All I could think was here we go again and I thought this was the T that could actually help... so I looked at him and said what I have said before... that is a little like the chicken and egg debate. He looked at me kinda funny. “T, I need to be healthier to attract healthier people into my life but I need healthy people in my life to get healthier. I’m stuck”. T smirked (lovingly)... “Well, that’s why I am here, I’m the first”.