I'm going through he same thing. I was going to make a thread and then I found this one.
I haven't self-harmed in almost 2 years. I used to think that managing the urges would get easier in time (in some ways it has I guess, or I wouldn't have made it this far...) But there are still days when I feel like I'm gonna end up relapsing...
I had been using s-h a as coping mechanism for many years before I was able to stop. It was like an addiction.
There are certain situations and feelings that automatically trigger me into wanting hurt myself, because that's what I'd automatically do every time I felt that way in the past. Maybe we just need more time, I don't know... But I think that the fact that you're continuously choosing to fight the urges and take care of yourself is amazing it's very hard to stop.
Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk. *sending hugs*