The first T I had when I was little, I didn't tell her until maybe six months in. And that was just because I showed up with short sleeves on one day and she brought it up. It hadn't occurred to me to bring it up because it wasn't abnormal for me. It was just something I did. Now I disclose first session every time. It just helps to get it out there. But I'm still struggling with SH. I'm lucky if I make it 50 days at a time without it. I don't know what it's like to disclose after a long time of not doing it, because I don't have that experience. Its good you have some time to think about it. Maybe say, you know, I hadn't meant to disclose that at this time. See what comes of it. I understand about wanting T's to react more instead of normalizing it. It's a balance thing for me. I want some reaction without over-reaction. It's a tightrope walk really. Congrats on the 12 years. You are an inspiration. HUGS Kit