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Originally Posted by svgandhi
I have had anger issues for the past several years. I am in a difficult situation in which people have been stereotyping me as a troublemaker. Years ago, I had bad posture and wasn't really integrated into society well. The result was that when I decided to correct my posture I would turn my head in a way that made people think I was trying to annoy or harass them. Now, I have corrected my posture but have developed a self-image of someone who is basically a misfit or loser.
A lot of the time when I walk past someone they will quickly turn to watch me to see if I am looking at them even though I have not done that sort of thing for years. This can be very mentally tiring. Also, since people are so focused on me they interpret every thing I do negatively regardless of my intent.
I am working with a counselor who helps with social anxiety. Whenever I start the day I have high hopes but almost all the time I come home angry with other people for how they behaved towards me. I spend a long time trying to get back control of my own security and psyche. The anger yesterday was on a level higher than I am used to. I have been taking part in a 30 day challenge in which I am not supposed to succumb to exits (such as Internet videos, porn, or comfort foods) when I get stressed but I wonder if this isn't good for my anger issues. Does anyone else have any suggestions for this?
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For dealing with your anger, I would recommend talking with family and exercising. I've never been a fan of exercising, but when I used to have more anger flare ups in the past, this helped tremendously reduce my anger. There is one thing to keep in mind if you are exercising at a gym. You may be nervous and think people are watching you, but everyone at the gym usually just wants everyone else around them to be safe and achieve their goal.
Also, I wanted to add something from my personal experience. I used to think throughout high school that I was watched by many, if not all of the students. I was paranoid about my appearance because of this and I was very cautious about almost all of my actions. Well, a year or so after finishing high school, I realized I had mostly flew under the radar for almost every student. No one knew who I was! I realized it was all in my head. Just something to consider, you may not be getting as much attention as you perceive you are.
Hope this helps! Sorry if I said anything bad, I'm new to this!