I do find that the generation of men over 40 say have a history of emotional cluelessness that they inherited from the previous generation of males.

I don't say that disparagingly at all. The separated roles that previous generations led made women more emotional and men more logical. I'm saying it because I have a few male friends in their 50s and 60s who are great fun, but who suffer emotionally. They socialise in a context of male buddies who are the same. They respect women, but they don't respect themselves unless they can be macho together. The places where they talk to other men are alcohol related.

That's a loss socially. I think some "non-Western" traditions have forms of male mentoring: "initiations", or other markers of passage for men. The West had forms of service with moral codes like the Boy Scouts - that's as far as we go with mentoring?