The root of our issue is sexual incompatibility and not truly loving and valuing each other. It’s really that simple. This marriage was sexual and emotional abuse by his neglect and deaf ears to my very loudly and clearly spoken needs.

Then there is this feeling of the element of ‘slut shaming’ me for being a woman who is dissatisfied with the lack of and horrible dysfunctional sex. Perhaps no one really ever shamed me, but this is only my perception and fear?

It’s so awful, I can’t bear to talk about it!

The bottom line is I am having poor quality of life.

I’m thinking the clergy will suggest we get closer to the Bible, thus occupying us with other things, rather than focusing on each other and our dysfunction? Maybe that will help. But I’m willing to take bets my husband will not change his ways for God, just as he will not change for me.