Couples counseling is usually not a good idea when one is an abuser; the abuser has to get therapy by himself for his anger issues. I understand your rage; counseling for yourself would perhaps be helpful. I am so sorry you are in this situation; this is verbal abuse. It affects your immune system.The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my live after 31 years of verbal abuse. Abusers are angry and take it out on others....it has nothing to do with who you are. Something that helps is to stop responding to the abuse...abusers are emotional vampires; they need you to continually explain yourself.
He can't fight with you, if you don't respond....walk away; go into another room. He will probably follow you and continue the abuse; you can set your boundaries, and refuse to listen to, or respond to his abuse....he will get angrier, because ne NEEDS you to respond