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CrystalGirlx
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Member Since: Feb 2019
Location: New Jersey
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Default Mar 08, 2019 at 08:12 PM
 
I am currently pregnant(some of you may know) and I am dealing with splitting from a malignant narcissist. He will not accept any texts from me, only phone calls. I have tried to text him pictures of the baby's ultrasound, he will not respond. I also tried to text him after I found out the sex, and he threatened to go to the police.

He just tells me he isn't into texting me anymore and that once the child is born we will take a DNA test and "take it from there". Problem is, at this point, I don't want to just "take it from there". His mental state is seriously alarming me. He will call me almost every morning asking me if I am okay or telling me he loves me and then he will immediately snap and become very aggressive and nasty. He had a rather loving conversation with me this morning about meeting and taking me out to dinner and then I texted him the baby was no longer measuring small and he didn't respond. I was wondering if he got the message, and called him and this is how it went:

Me: Hey did you get the text the service in the building is bad?
Narc: Yep.
Me: You...didn't respond.
Narc: Well I am now what's up?
Me: Uh, well yeah they said the baby is bigger than average. I know you were worried with me when we found out about the chance it could be a preemie.
Narc: Please just don't text me anymore. You can call me. That's it!

When he picked me up he was cold, barely spoke to me, and then we went for coffee and he made me pay for his coffee. A huge change from an "I love you let me take you out". I mean I don't mind paying for a three dollar coffee but as soon as we ordered he began staring at me saying "got any moolah?" I was kind of taken back, and said "I thought you were taking me to dinner?" He snarkly responded "things changed". There was no reasoning behind this sudden outburst other than the fact I told him his stipulation regarding me not texting him was ridiculous.

The thing that disturbs me is the constant mood changes. I am actually fearful of him at this point. I plan on changing my phone number tonight. I have an appointment to meet with a custody attorney for some guidance this week. I can understand him not accepting abusive text messages, but he flat out ignored photos from the ultrasound and me telling him the baby was healthy. Yet now, he expects to just magically take a DNA test and be a father in 4 months.
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