Even my husband can be guilty of it sometimes. Understand that he is not an abusive person. He is a wonderful man, and I love him very much. Sometimes he just doesn't understand.

A few days ago, he was helping me with a minor medical issue, and he was doing it incorrectly. Pain was obvious in my face and voice when I told him to stop because he was hurting me. Well, that would be a normal reaction, right? Then I pointed out to him what was wrong and led him through the necessary adjustment so we could get this done without pain.

He actually took umbrage. "You made it sound like I was hurting you on purpose." Of course he wasn't. He would never hurt me on purpose. Doesn't change the fact that it dang sure hurt.