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Originally Posted by Zararose
How can you learn to trust someone new, after being lied to, manipulated, betrayed by someone in the past? Has anyone ever done it?
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Originally Posted by Zararose
Has anyone got any thoughts to help let go of what you can't control?
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To answer both questions, yes.
I've recently learned about thinking traps (cognitive distortions). Some examples of them that I can see in your posts are:
I have been allowing thinking traps to taint my thinking for a very long time. Learning about them helped me start to learn to view the world differently. I have been able to trust someone again. I've been able to recognize that my jealousy issues are because of situations that do not exist in reality, rather only in my mind.
When my thoughts are compared with reality, I am better able to understand what I can and cannot control and let go of the latter. With regard to trying to control, being able see my all-or-nothing thinking made it far easier to not try to control something, in part because that something existed only in my head so there was nothing to actually control.
Make sense?