Hello dazedandconfsed: Thank you for bringing your concerns here to PC. I noticed this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central. Two other forums, here on PC, that may be of interest would be the relationships forum & the healthy parenting forum. Here are links to these forums:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

https://forums.psychcentral.com/healthy-parenting/

You might also like to check out the Men-Focused Support forum:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/men-focused-support/

And then here is a link to the Surviving Inflidelity blog from Psych Central's archives. There are a number of articles in this blog that may be useful for you to read:

Surviving Infidelity | A blog about moving on from infidelity in your relationship

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.