I think I am, or feel like I am dealing with a narc. In my thread here, I line up his behavior with traits of a narcissist from an article I found online. That seems legitimate to me that he has some narc traits for sure.

Nice guys don't give mixed messages out. So either this guy was trying to set me up to be his source of emotional empathy online, b/c of his breakup with his ex, or he was interested in me, but not enough to pursue anything. Either way, in our communications offline and online, he was dismissive of my feelings, tried to deflect any blame on his part by putting it back on me, and tried to shame me for openly expressing my feelings and setting boundaries with him.