Yes, sometimes I didn't even realize it because it crept up on me after many years and I was modeling some of my dad's codependent behaviors. Some of it I need to change or have already changed. Talking about my interactions between my H and son and me with a therapist helped. Where you draw the line is your own choice. I am learning better when to say "No" but sometimes I also want to do things for others. That is OK too.

When you are married, you depend on each other. So you have to make compromises with your partner that make sense for both of you. How dependent you are on each other is a personal choice from my POV.