You've only been divorced a year and are already planning a long future with a new girlfriend. Now I understand that people are all different in getting past break ups but for the life of me, I cannot help but think it's very quick to be making decisions like that after something like a divorce. Not only because of the break up but since you've only been divorced a year you can't have been with this new girl for all that long and you're already finding reasons to try and change her.

I stand by my idea that if you go into a new relationship and are trying to find ways to fix and/or change the other, likely it's not a solid ground to begin with. Regardless of what issues they have, if they need to change in order to be the person you are content with being in a relationship with, it kind of goes against the idea that they are right for you. don't make plans for long term based on ideas that may not happen.