I know how you feel, Calypso. I used to have an old friend i reconnected with over social media and we would write each other over Facebook. But it go so it would take her literally WEEKS to respond. I would twist in the wind and get writers' remorse. She'd say she was too busy to reply promptly but she was on disability too so i don't know what she was so busy with. Finally i broke it off with her.

I hate that feeling of "giving more than you're getting." It sounds like that's what you're dealing with. If you're not getting a good return on your investment maybe the best thing is to stop investing. We all know, you can't change the other peoples' behavior, only our own.

Congratulations on your sobriety! That's surely something to be proud of!