if you've moved beyond the idea that appearance is so important, likely this behavior that has been ongoing is becoming more contrasting to your perspective and stands out more. You've endured years of that dysfunctional behavior and now that you re more healthy it just is more obvious.

It's not a problem, it's just that you're seeing people, your family, in a different light and that can be a good or bad thing, it's what you do with it that matters. Let it be a reminder of how you've changed and it's a good thing. Allow it to draw you back into the old role and dysfunction and obviously that's a bad thing. Just take it as something you observe and see about your family members and their behavior, accept that this is just how they are and continue with your healthy perception of self.