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What an interesting post Arbie! Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you and your sister are close and have a good relationship. Do I have that right? If so, I recommend chatting with her about this issue. Need not be heavy or confrontational. Just something like "Hey love, just so you know, i don't need all the compliments on my looks. I am happy and well now. And I feel that character is so much more important thank looks; I know you agree. Let's find some other fun things to chat about." See what she says.
I completely understand why it would be uncomfortable for you to stand there listening to someone try to bolster you when you in fact you don't need that.
I hope a chat helps you and your sis