Once I connected up the pain at being rejected by my last T with the unconscious, now conscious, pain of being/feeling of rejected by my female relatives, I have been able, after 2 years and experiences of being non-rejected here and in a support group, to move on somewhat. Being rejected is not the end of the world, maybe, though it had felt like that. Or something. Though I didn't know I felt that way, until I did feel it, because it had been so unbearable, apparently, and hence dissociated.

So, I would guess, yes, wanting those responses from him may continue but the distress at not getting them may be lessened. AND, you may feel better able to tolerate the distress and not feel so much that you have to avoid the appointments, and the pain?

Congrats on the realization and your persistence, including asking for input on here. This kind of stuff really ain't that easy IMO. It will be interesting, I think, how things are for you going forward. Please keep us posted?