It’s an issue of what you both want your sexuality to be like. She has a deep need for the way she wants it. Her need is annoying to you (I don’t blame you! I’d hate what you described at the sink.). So you both have to find some compromise, or it will be a deal breaker.

In my issue, he has always been receptive and agreed to what I need. The only problem is he just won’t act upon it. Frustrating and futile. We must be codependent.

But your relationship is new and you are very young. You are just learning about what you need and like, too.