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Originally Posted by Have Hope
There doesn't seem to be a reasonable compromise to be made in your situation? Like you stated, what would it be?
I have a hard time understanding her hurt feelings. She needs to respect and appreciate your boundaries and sentiments. And it seems as though you totally enjoy intimacy with her otherwise.
I'm in agreement with Bill3 on this. To me, she is not fully respecting your personal boundaries and desires, even though she is complying with them. She seems to want what she wants which IS invasive. It does seem a bit manipulative on her part to tell you that she's hurt & to say that she's afraid to initiate sex because of you possibly disliking whatever she is doing, despite your obvious enjoyment of it.
Her hurt feelings are not your responsibility, in my opinion. That's a burden on you to take care of her emotional needs when you're drawing a boundary to take care of yours. And you're happier. That's what she should focus on.
Something seems off about this, but I cannot pinpoint what it is.
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Yeah. I have a very hard time understanding why it's so devastating to her. I know she wants to put her hands on my breasts and whatever often, and I get that it may be kind of annoying that she can't, but all the tears confuse me. She said this morning that she wants to feel "close" to me but we were like snuggling when she said that and I was like, what?? We are close. Why does her hand need to be on my crotch or breasts for us to be close? I snuggle with her all the time...I wish I could understand exactly why it is so important to her.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
How old is your girlfriend? I just realized that you are very young. 20-21? Is she older? How is your relationship otherwise? What do you two do together besides sex?
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She's 24, I'm 20. We live together, and have for about eight months... Have been together for about a year and a half. We love each other a ton and do lots of stuff together: go out on dinner dates, out with each other's friends, see music together, shop, etc...Just live life I suppose. I love spending time with her; we are each other's favorite person. And I can say that honestly from both sides. I know how much she genuinely cares for me, and she has never once said anything hurtful to me...Just a very caring relationship overall.
