Forcing yourself on people would be you ask him for coffee and he says no thanks and you keep harassing and stalking him. Simply asking a person isn’t forcing no one. He isn’t obligated to date you.

I asked men out before no big deal. One became friend for life because when we worked together 20 years ago I asked him out but we ended up mostly just hanging out. Romance wasn’t really in the cards mostly on his part. Lol he was in medical school then. We hung out until he moved out of the area and we’ve been in touch since then. He sometimes comes back to the area. He is 6 years younger than me. I wrote him a note with my phone number and asked him to give me a phone call. I was 33 and he was 26, I am 53 now.

The bottom line is you’d never know unless you ask. If he gets angry then you don’t need him anyways. Do it in indirect way like write a note or message him on FB if you feel shy