But what can you do when you loved one are not aware they are sick and they do not want to go and ask for help. I am seeing here coments of people that struggles with BPD but they are aware of this and of the fact they suffer and they are not mean..... The syntoms of my loved one are horrible and I am aware how much he may suffer after ..... but he doesn't want to accept he is not mean and evil as he says and he doesn't want to search for help....