The person I love doesn't even want to admit he has in issue. He just thinks he is devil and mean by definition and I have tried to tell him is not and underneath there are wounds and he should ask for help but he doesn't want to try getting out of this vicious circle...... of being iratinally angry and than sorry and crying out of how a horrible person he is.... He really doesn't want help at all but his symptoms got horrible lately. I know he doesn't want to hurt me, I am aware and all his violence doesn't touch me in the sense that I know that is not about me and he is in crisis. But if he doesn't even want to try to get out of there, to ask for help what can I do? I can not live like this....