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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
I am reading this again and really have the impression you do have a sense of entitlement. It sounds like you expect something for nothing - a great deal of it in fact.
I think it a very rare thing indeed for someone to be fortunate enough to be doing something they absolutely love to do without stress or difficult moments. Congratulations to them. I must be doing something wrong.
The point is we have obligations and commitments to adhere to in life. Contributing to our lifestyle is one of them. If you can't work (I stress "can't") or contribute financially it is then necessary to find other ways to do so. Life isn't free. I don't work. I do have a small income however. I contribute most of that into the household and you can be darned sure that I am always looking for additional ways to do so. It is my obligation. It is part of being an adult. So I cook, clean, make sure the dog is walked and otherwise ensure I am pretty damn busy doing my share. Unless you have some physical limitations preventing you from doing so, you had better be doing your part to 'pay' for your living arrangement.
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The OP could have been blowing off steam. We don't know. They also said that they are stressed out by the idea of work, and afraid. That doesn't sound like entitlement to me. It sounds like...what they just said: stressed and afraid of working. It sounds to me like its stopping the OP in their tracks.
I don't think they're being entitled in the extreme or classic sense. However, I agree with what you said that we should not expect things for free. We do need to work, and help out, and reciprocate, as part of our community, family, etc. In my perspective, that is a concept for some that can easily be forgotten. And there are aspects of work that are just plain not fun. I am learning this as I go, as well. Interesting how many animals do not have to work though. It seems like a human thing to me. If, that is, you think humans are animals, which I personally do. But yeah it may also have to do with how one is brought up. Or just not having parents or parental figures who explained why we need to work or stressed its importance. I've often wondered that myself and I also did not have parents or parental figures who told me why it was important.
I'm disabled. I am afraid to work (I have heard that a lot of people who have been on disability or haven't worked in a long time, find moving towards work scary - it is common) and have trouble showing up to some social things / keeping certain commitments, but I am also addressing these fears and behavioral issues so that I can work in the future, and for various other reasons as well. It is part of my personal recovery plan.