To my understanding, everybody displays all kinds of emotions when put under severe stress. People who have a disorder, display those symptoms vs. someone without the disorder may handle better the stress that the disordered person handled in the disordered way.

You point out that the treatment has been “inhuman”, and H says you both have “no choice”. Well, you do have choice. It sounds like you have a difference of opinion as to what to do with your H and your H is calling the shots.