Nowinners: i hope I wasnt too harsh before. I can identify what you are going through with your son to an extent. My daughter last year ran away during high school when she was 18. Drugs, alcohol, rehab, sober living, many jobs- she always has drama. She came to stay with us for 2.5 weeks in Jan between sober houses and we have come to realize that like it or not, we can not deal with her living with us. Whether we like it or not she has been independent and her way of living doesn't jive with us anymore- its amazing how fast that happens. It breaks my heart to hear how broke she is all the time. We help her out from time to time but the lessons she had to learn hurt us as much as they did her. I am sorry if I seemed insensitive in my post.