Sigh, I feel for you. This is such a sad situation - for everyone involved.

The choice to stand up for what you believe in, though difficult, is what will allow you to rest easier on this. There will come a time when you will be relieved.

I so very much understand your continuing worry and concern even after you have removed yourself from the situation. After all, you already had invested a great deal of yourself into the family.

There is something to be said about being the priority in a relationship.

Yes, we need to keep our kids our priority but there is also something to be said about also keeping our partners a priority too.

I thank you for your update by the way.

I just wish that things could have worked out for the better - for everyone concerned. Maybe it might be a little easier if you consider that, for the time you were in these children's lives, you provided some consistency which they so badly needed. With luck, their father will have learned the importance with this. It may even turn out that you have given him the impetuous to make the necessary changes.