He sounds like was someone who suffered childhood trauma. People turn out different from trauma, but not having the capacity for love is a common trait. If I were to pick one, I'd pick NPD. I don't think it matters because you are describing symptoms that come out of someone's inner world. It's the inner world, which doesn't get assigned a diagnosis, that's what is wrong .

You described feeling objectified. That's something I've frequently felt around someone antisocial and another NPD, but those who have dependency issues can also provoke similar feelings in others just the same.