My husband is bipolar and for many years he went with no medication, he has recently started seroquel and he is a compmetely different person. He usevto do the exact same things, quit jobs, buy unnecessary stuff, no sense of accomplishment in anything he did. Try to get him to just a counselor to start, then see if they can change his mind about getting meds if he needs it. And to be honest i threatened divorce,because its not fair, its one thing to do something about it and its another to refuse.