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Originally Posted by Skull&Crossbones
I don’t have enough sexual experience to know. I was raised in a very conservative family. Gay wasn’t an option. I had a little exposure to the concept in high school but didn’t really realize I was attracted to women until undergrad. Most of my experience with men has more or less felt like trying to insert a square peg in a round hole so I don’t know if that means I’m gay or it’s just REALLY bad experiences. I’m shy and not conventionally attractive (so I’m not really going to have people hit on me either) so to get any experience I usually just go with whoever is available. And yes, I have hit on women...it just never goes anywhere. So I have zero experience so how would I really know my sexuality? I’ve always been pretty confused about gender too. I don’t really have a strong sense of identity overall. I’ve been rediscovering my personality again. Usually the issue is I don’t feel comfortable or safe being myself.
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To be gay or heterosexual is not an “option”, it’s who you are. It’s not a choice.
And you don’t have to have actual sexual experience to know who you are. How do you think people determine their sexual orientation? Sleeping with both genders and comparing who they prefer more? I understand that you might be unsure or might like both sexes but your rationale behind it is somewhat strange to me. I don’t think I should sleep with a woman to make a determination that I am not into women. I don’t need that experience to know I am not interested. Of course many people experiment but it’s not a requirement