I don't do good manners much, but I do generosity. If I can give something, even at a stretch, then I will give it without strings. It helps my world go round. I do being hospitable and co-operative also, but good manners freak me out. Each to their own comfort and discomfort zones.

It would be nice if - as Eskielover writes - socialising could be more about genuine warmth and connection. I get frustrated at the lack of connectedness around me.

I do have arguments with myself about biting my tongue in certain situation where someone is holding forth and taking up all the space without saying anything. That's when I would like to be a little more skilled at expressing disagreement without starting an all-out conflict. Expressing disagreement subtly by degrees, at the same time as staying grounded in my own self. I tend to just go quiet and leave, and I do agree with Mopey that there are social situations that demand a little skill. I get irritated when people are all talk and no listen, and that's too reactive to be constructive.

At work I think faking is ok. For example, going round saying a cheery "good morning" even if you're fussed that your best friend got drunk and dumped you last night. Being at work was more about working with strangers to get something done, than about deep connection.