Sorry I didnt mean to insinuate your wife was at fault. I am very social and always have been, and I think a lot of it has to do with being adhd for me and always being friendly. I think sometimes its more natural for some people. Have you been deeply hurt in your life in a way that makes you wary of getting close or even friendly with people. Sometimes its almost like trauma for people who have been let down or abused or taken advantage of by people and they are really gun-shy of it happening again. Do you think that could be it?