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Originally Posted by SilverTrees
That is WONDERFUL news Radnomer123! I wonder if you were losing a lot of time on your fantasies before because you were mentally wrestling with yourself over the shame etc? Now that you are finding a new acceptance for yourself and your thoughts, you were able to feel the pleasure and move on without rumination. What a relief!!!
Ps. What about not labeling your fantasy as "dirty?" You could just call it a really intense one or a fun one!  For me anyway, the word 'dirty' would trigger some negative feelings. Though if you don't feel that way, fair play to you!  |
I think I meant dirty in a good way. And yes I was probably making it take up more time by beating myself up about it and trying to make myself stop doing it etc. Now I enjoy "meeting" with him in my daydreams, allowing it to happen and then get on with whatever else. It does seem to take up less time now, and I feel better in general.