Thanks I want to keep communicating and hopefully I can break free and get everyone's opinions as much as I can.

When she chose to come back to work on things she agreed to remove all her social media as part of the deal, she went back on it and now she wants to work on things but to keep her social media but remove all the guys that are unnecessary.

I told her that's fine if she wants to try and show effort. I still cant trust her over this and my plan really is to try to slowly break away from her if I can. Am I being a A-hole by doing this behind her back? I know it's kind of the cowardly way but she wont just let me go either or else she would just go since she clearly dont want to get rid of the things that have caused us problems in the relationship.

She expects trust but she does not deserve it in my opinion.

If by some miracle she really does change I might stay but shes already pushing back so I doubt it will last long anyway