Well... I don't know about lie to, abuse, & abandon necessarily. But way back when I was growing up children were to be seen & not heard. Kids just grew up. And whatever happened... happened. That was just the way it was. And anything a child did wrong, or did differently than was considered to be the norm, they were blamed for. I doubt it would have even occurred to anyone that it could have been the parents fault or that the child was, perhaps, simply different than what was considered to be the norm.

I've written before, here on PC, that I learned very early in life there were things about myself I must never talk about with anyone. And so I never did. Still, inevitably, small amounts of my personal weirdness seeped out from time-to-time. When they did, I can still hear my father say (head shaking): "Jesus, Bud. What the hell's the matter with ya?" I don't know if, for most kids, it's all that much different nowadays. The more things change, the more they stay the same.