I kind of have to say I settled..he smokes but only when he drinks..and I don’t mean just cigarettes...if it was social drinking I could deal with it or even one beer in the evening..fine. But he drinks IPA after IPA, and sometimes adds hard liquor on top of it. Then, he doesn’t know how to communicate what is bothering him, until he gets mad. Will say mean things to me like I am not even attracted to you, etc. Then the next day he’s calling me, and being nice..