I agree with what you said re if people constantly bump up old posts of members who have left it might harm their ability to return with a fresh start. I hadn’t thought of that before.
I love the diversity of people here and their views..
And that there isn’t one “right answer” usually or a “one size fits all”
I too miss many who have left and who have contributed so much to this wonderful community. Maybe some will return at some point. (I know some have returned ..)
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Originally Posted by amandalouise
my own views on this.....
sometimes members have to leave because of domestic violence reasons. if their posts keep coming up it could lead to a very dangerous situation for them if their abuser has found them here and others keep posting in their threads.
sometimes members leave the site and come back as someone else for a fresh start. if members are constantly bringing up the old post that the member has hoped to leave behind because they are no longer diagnosed that or just because they wanted a fresh start, they cant get their fresh start with members constantly reminding them of old posts..
there is also no good bye threads because it can cause other members here problems or the person saying goodbye may be doing it for attention (not saying this perticular situation this is whats going on just that this has happened in the past with good bye threads where people post good bye then members post how much they miss them and dont want them to go then the person posts sorry they had no intentions on leaving.
my views are if there are no good bye threads for this reason then I shouldnt be posting in old threads the same that is against the rules for good bye threads.
my point I as a member can think of many reasons why when members leave for what ever reasons their user name turns into anon with a number and their past posts get locked. the main one being we make friends here and its like pouring salt in a wound to be constantly reminded that our friends have left. kind of like going through the grieving process at some point its time to move on instead of staying stuck causing ourselves needless pain.
in my heart I wish all that have left well but I wouldnt want my constantly bringing up their posts and threads to harm others or their abilities to come back with a fresh start. So I refuse to post in any good bye or anon marked threads.
mind you this is not a rule thing I am talking about, because I dont know the exact reasons why those who have left over the years have their user names changed to anon with a number and their past threads locked. this is just my own musings/ thoughts and what I go by.
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