Good for you recognizing it. You deserve better. I applaud you for not finding 200 excuses for him and continue to live your life accommodating him and forgetting your needs.
Yeah addicts often don’t to go out and do social things like plays and concerts and tours and museums etc because they can’t be drunk there. Although I saw a man chugging from a bottle of vodka in Getty museum in LA. No kidding. Granted it was close to the closing time so I guess he couldn’t wait.
I’d stop responding to his texts and calls. Longer you talk to him longer you won’t find good men.