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sarahsweets · Apr 14, 2019 at 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by 1neglectedwife

The following year, 2017, he walked out on us to play house with a piece of trash.

Do you mean he had an affair and moved in with her?

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So after finding out he's s been watching online porn 3, 4 sometimes 5 times a week,

Is he back home?

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I lost it and told him the truth, that I've been faking pleasure so he wouldn't feel bad about himself . In hindsight, that bit me in the *** since his inflated ego sent him out to share his amazing "ability" with any who would take it.

what ability? I am confused. You say he has the premature ejaculation-did he fix that issue?

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He said he cheated and watches porn because I don't give him affection and attention, so I guess that's temper tantrums . I told him what I want and what I won't stand for any longer.. My immediate problem is this 10 years worth of blue balls that I myself haven't been able to ease.

So do you think his issue was your fault but now its better with other women or porn?

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He will either change his ways or he'll get better at hiding it. Idk know what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated. He needs to resolve this asap, before I blow. Thanks for reading.[/B]

I am trying to understand so I can give you the support you need. Did he leave you and shack up with another woman but is home now? Why stay with him if his solution or "punishment" to you is an affair? I feel the same way about porn- I prefer that my husband not watch it. He doesn't because he says he would rather think of me. But I also would never check his search history or go through his phone. What do you think he needs to resolve? If anything you guys need marriage counseling to see if you can stay in the marriage when he has cheated on you. Maybe he can explain what his issue with sex is. Below is some info I found:

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sometimes PE is a problem for men who have erection problems (erectile dysfunction or ED). This is when men are not able to get or keep an erection that's firm enough for sex. Since an erection goes away after ejaculation, it can be difficult to know if the problem is PE or ED. ED should be treated first. Premature ejaculation may not be a problem once the ED is treated.

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Ejaculation is the release of semen from the body. Premature ejaculation (PE) is when ejaculation happens sooner than a man or his partner would like during sex. Occasional PE is also known as rapid ejaculation, premature climax or early ejaculation. PE might not be a cause for worry. It can be frustrating if it makes sex less enjoyable and impacts relationships. But it happens often and causes problems, your health care provider can help.

In the U.S., about 1 in 3 men 18 to 59 years old have problems with PE. The problem is often thought to be psychological, but biology may also play a
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https://www.urologyhealth.org/urolog...re-ejaculation[/FONT]