Hello Cagedcuddlebug: This appears to be your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the women-focused support forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/women-focused-support/

One thing you didn't mention in your post was how old your husband is. I wonder if, perhaps, some of what is going on with him here could possibly be age related. Or perhaps your husband is struggling with some depression. I don't really have anything in particular I can offer with regard to this myself. However here are links to a selection of 10 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help. They start out with 3 articles on how to revive a marriage. Next are 3 articles on depression in men. The following article (one I am personally fond of) talks about how cool dudes turn into grumpy old men. After that come 2 articles on loneliness within marriage. And finally an article that talks about how to survive & even thrive in an unhappy marriage:

Reviving Your Marriage

6 Simple Ways to Reignite Your Relationship

Reduce Post Romantic Stress and Rekindle Your Connection | Healing Together for Couples

Depression in Men: It Looks Different Than You Might Think

https://psychcentral.com/lib/helping...ression/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-thi...le-depression/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-co...rumpy-old-men/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/loneli...thin-marriage/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...your-marriage/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...ge-and-thrive/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.