My lessons are related to giving up on failing therapy:

I learned to value my self respect and independence more than external validation and care that requires unquestioned compliance and submission

I learned the signs of emotional addiction to an individual, learned why it’s unhealthy, and indentified my ‘blind spots’ to avoid future emotional addiction.

I learned to remove myself from situations that make me feel bad about myself.

I learned I should never have to convince (or pay) someone to love me.

I learned I am responsible for my own emotions. I cannot change anyone but myself. Trying to get someone else to be different keeps me hooked in a destructive waiting pattern.

I learned I am not broken and don’t need to be fixed. I am good enough AS IS.

I learned I am an adult and don’t need babying, coddling or enabling no matter how good it feels in the moment. I learned that I should never tolerate regressive dynamics.

I learned that therapy is not the only path to heal, understand myself better or self-improve.