Hi Sarahsweets,

I also tend to take what other people do or say very personal. Perhaps too personal, to the point that I start to ruminate over it in an unproductive, self-depreciating way. After my first hot flash of hurt I now try to go back and examine my feelings from all possible angles. Have I been reading too much into someone else's intention? Were their actions reflective of something I did or said or were they saying as much, if not more, about their own current state of mind? A lot of times I figured it was the latter. And if not I keep telling myself that I am not perfect, don't have to be since no one is. All that I can do is reflect on it. If I still feel that I would/should have rather behaved differently in this situation I will try to do so next time. Then I move on. There's always someone who chooses not to engage.

Warm wishes,
Gabe