And with the people I love, I have directly told all of them, during calm times, that my mental health is not their responsibility and that if I ever tell them I have suidical ideation, it is NEVER a suicide threat (that would be emotional abuse) but just me sharing some scary thoughts so they don't build up in my mind too much. If someone is actually intending to end their life, they don't tell anyone, they just go off and do it. But it is helpful to explain the difference to people you are close to. They'll be less inclined to panic and more likely to be helpful.