I agree with both of these points. For me, being able to cry in session felt like progress because I had trouble accessing and tolerating my emotions (I was much more likely to try to laugh it off). I also had difficulty trusting another person to be vulnerable enough to cry in front of them. I cry more often than not in session now, and I feel fairly comfortable with it. Sometimes my tears catch me off guard, and then it's useful to stop for a minute and ask myself why whatever I'm talking about is provoking more emotion than I had expected.

But sometimes if I can talk about a certain upsetting thing for the second or third or tenth time and not cry, that can be useful to notice because it indicates that I am handling the thing better and am feeling less distressed by it. It's not really my goal to cry less, though, because I don't think there is anything wrong with crying.

It's hard to know what your T meant by her comment, if anything. I sense that maybe you feel a bit judged? Since you're still thinking about it now, it seems like our might be worth talking about with her.