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Originally Posted by Amyjay
Yes, very much this! Cultivating alter (self) compassion is turning out to be the one greatest factor in my healing. And as each alter's story unfolds it actually seems impossible to not have compassion for them. And for us reaching that place of compassion for an alter seems to be the "point of arrival".
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Yes x the sky. When wearing the shame/blame/guilt/fear/secrecy goggles...this all looks chaotic, scary, embarrassing, fragmented, unexplained, out of my control and therefore hammering in the guilt and shame and fear.
From the lens of compassion and understanding...as a means of survival. Ding.
An example in one sentence: "I don't know how I made it through college." Lens of shame - If only people knew how messed up I was, I don't remember my subject or even being there.
Contrast: "I don't know how I made it through college!" BUT I DID! How awesome is that? The part that needed to come in and get it done succeeded.
Sigh. Such an incredibly fascinating thing.
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