I have been working on being able to feel and express emotions for the past few years with both T. As a young teen I learned to numb out. The about 15 years ago somebody I was VERY close to moved away. I was heartbroken. I sobbed hard by myself and I remember very clearly thinking I would never allow myself to get close enough to a person that losing them work hurt me like that ever again. Nor would I cry because it accomplished nothing. There were times I really wanted to cry with T but just couldn't accept for a tear or two.

When I lost T I cried A LOT not only outside of therapy but on the phone and in session with EMDR T. It has only been the last maybe month I can talk about T and not break down. We see it as progress because I am slowly working through the grief process rather than getting stuck. I have only cried one with EMDR T one other time when we were discussing trauma. So for me crying I therapy is progress but also so isnt being able to discuss a topic and not crying.